When does a couple need relationship or marriage counseling?
Here is a mini quiz to help you answer that question for yourself:
If you answered "No" to even one question, then your relationship would more than likely benefit from couples counseling. While couples counseling is not considered exciting or even fun, it is worth the effort to see improvement in the partnership and in the individuals involved in the relationship.
There are no easy fixes, but having a lifelong relationship takes work. The question is, can and will you make the effort and do the work necessary to change the trajectory of your marriage?
While no therapist can guarantee that they can save a marriage or that the couple will even see improvement in their relationship from going to counseling. Stages Family Therapy is committed to working with you as long as you are willing to work at the relationship. Stages Family Therapy wants to be a part of the positive journey that is possible as a couple grows closer and develops a better friendship.
In each couple there are two individuals, and a therapist cannot control the motivation level of anyone. Sometimes couples come to therapy expecting the therapist to change their spouse, this is just not possible, what is possible is that if both members of a couple are willing to work toward the same goal, therapists can provide the environment and foster positive interactions to bring increased intimacy in a marriage.
We at Stages Family Therapy know that cost is always a consideration when looking at the prospects of counseling and encourage you to look at it as an investment. Some therapists have suggested that marriage counseling is much less expensive than divorce. While this statement is true, we want you to think about how much having a loving and fulfilling relationship is worth to you. Because as you consider the possibility of having the relationship you want with the person you are already married to, the cost seems more like an investment in your own individual mental and even physical health.
When we have a problem with the plumbing and it is beyond our ability to fix it, do we just keep doing what is not working or do we call a plumber? When we need a lawyer, do we represent ourselves? The answer to these questions are of course, “no”, so if you are unable to work things out on your own within your marriage, this may be one of the best investments in your future and it may be time to seek out a professional to help you.
When considering who you select to help you with relationship issues it is often important to consider the therapist’s education, training and licensure. Stages Family Therapy is a Marriage and Family Therapy practice, Derek Hagey is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has worked with couples at all levels of marital functioning from those that are doing quite well but want marriage enrichment to improve their already strong marriage to those who are struggling to communicate and are considering divorce. No matter how your relationship is, we are willing to help. Feel free to call Derek for a brief phone consultation if you want to discuss the possibility of relationship counseling.
And now, humor. That's right, in relationships we need to have some humor. Laughter has a powerful effect on your health and well-being. A good laugh relieves tension and stress, elevates mood, enhances creativity and problem-solving ability, and provides a quick energy boost. But even more importantly, laughter brings people together. Mutual laughter and play are an essential component of strong, healthy relationships.
If you ever got in a fight with your significant other, it went EXACTLY like this.